I’m Nelson Pahl, a narrative psychologist that specializes in death-grief.

I counsel. I research. I educate.

And while my private practice is located in KCMO, USA, I help clients the world-over.

Counseling Approach

My approach to grief steps beyond the tired, and largely failing, traditional model of adjustment “stages.”

Instead, I help clients find prompt and efficient healing through narrative & expressive arts tactics. These include:

  • Reconstructing meaning
  • Characterizing loss
  • Identifying living memorials
  • Re-membering
  • Timeline review
  • Ritualization
  • Homage
  • Continuing bond expression

By way of this approach, you’re better able to alleviate void, mend heartache, make sense of your loss, find benefit in the journey, identify important identity transformation, and to adjust outcomes.

In other words, to find real healing.

The methods I use are gentle-yet-potent and quite liberating. In fact, they can oftentimes feel almost magical.

I offer house calls in select KC metro area neighborhoods & suburbs, virtual sessions via TheraPlatform (to anyone, anywhere), and my private practice is located at the Arbor Vitae Wellness Center in KC’s eclectic Waldo neighborhood, a “village” of practitioners and yogis owned by my cherished confidant friend Maria Murphy.


My life before psychology includes a six-year stint in the United States Freestyle Team system, as well as an 18-year career as a respected writer, author, and editor.

Academically, my undergraduate studies included concentrations in psychology and creative writing (UCSD). I earned my MBA Certificate from Tulane. And, I carried out my Ph.D. studies in narrative psychology at the University of Portsmouth.


– I’m originally from the Twin Cities of Minneapolis/Saint Paul.

– I’m a pet parent to a pair of precious pups: Moose, a puggle (16); and Izzie, a miniature husky mix (15). I’m also a pet step-parent to Mazie, a Cairn Terrier mix, and cats Ash, Zoe, and Simba.

– I love the Minnesota Wild.

– There’s no where I’d rather be than on a kayak in the mountains.

– I call KC’s yoga queen my beloved.

– And I operate both Nelson Pahl Healing and Wiley Rogue Publishing with my oldest and dearest friend, Shellie Rae.

With Emily Darling


Needless to say, if you’ve been enduring intense grief over the loss of of a love one, companion animal, colleague, mentor, or the likes…

And you’re looking to resolve that grief…

I’m probably your guy. 😉

Until next time…