FAQ

What is experiential grief therapy?

It’s a type of counseling that takes the humanistic, client-centric approach that you are the expert on you. Meaning, as a counselor, I simply help you process negative emotions and explore better outcomes. Narrative therapy, expressive arts therapy, art therapy, music therapy, drama therapy, play therapy, animal-assisted therapy, and nature therapy are all examples of experiential counseling.

You really take only a few clients per week? Why?

Yes. I want to help my clients heal as efficiently as possible. And this takes attentiveness and space. If I carried, say, 25-35 clients a week—like your typical online site specializing in assembly line “therapy”—my healing skills, compassion, and enthusiasm would become diluted (How can they not?), resulting in a less effective experience for each client, including you.

Do you really fire clients?

Unfortunately, once in a while, yes. If you aren’t willing to do the work, or you’re the type of person that likes to lash out whenever your current way of thinking is challenged, I prefer not to book you. 

Do you discount or negotiate your fees?

No. 

Do you really record your sessions?

I do record all sessions, in audio. I do so to legally protect myself. These recordings do remain private and are never shared with anyone…except, potentially, a court of law, should any accusations or litigation ever be brought against me.

Do you take insurance?

No.

Do you really make house calls?

Yes. In certain KC neighborhoods.

Do you really offer walk-n-talk sessions?

I do. In certain KC neighborhoods.

Will you really come to my workplace to counsel me?

Uh hah. If you work in certain KC neighborhoods.

Do you work with children?

I work with kids 12 years years of age and older.

Do you work with groups or families?

I do not. I only work one-on-one.

Why is your approach so powerful?

One, I belong to a school of psychology that doesn’t subscribe to the tired, and largely failing, traditional grief model of adjustment “stages.” This rebellion supercharges my work.

Two, my toolkit includes a unique and multi-layered mix of narrative, expressive arts, and memory reconsolidation techniques that allow for efficient processing and “completion” of your grief.

Why is your specialty death-grief? Sounds kind of morbid?

On the contrary. Plain and simple, grief is love. And love is our reason for being. In fact, everything else can be explained away as part of the pointless “born to die” journey…except love. And as a die-hard romantic, I see the beauty in all grief—the power, the purpose, the passion, the poetry.

Why pet loss?

One, I’m a lifelong animal lover. And two, because pet loss can hurt just as much, or sometimes more, than losing a human loved one….and that causes issues with mental wellness…and I’m a mental health professional…and…well…you get the idea.

Why disenfranchised grief?

Honestly…because it hurts to see someone in terrible pain over a loss that’s not allowed to properly express that grief. It doesn’t matter if that loss was by way of suicide, overdose, AIDS, dementia…or if it was a high school sweetheart, a mentor, a coach, a client…that pain is real yet society stifles those cries.

And if I can help…which I can…I’ll do so.

What’s your experience with death-grief?

Well, I’ve lost a mother, a father, several cousins, five aunts, eight uncles, all my grandparents, a close friend, a lover, and a mentor.

I’ve lost these loved ones to anticipatory death (dementia, terminal illness), traumatic death (accident, aneurysm, and murder), and via disenfranchised means (suicide).

I’ve also lost several companion animals in my lifetime, including four of my own, with two recent losses (Moose & Izzy) being just seven months apart, and sandwiching the loss of my mother.

It should be noted, as well, that from November 2006 to May 2011—after losing two close loved ones to sudden deaths just 87 days apart—I endured a vicious cycle of prolonged grief…

Which, literally, almost killed me.

Simply put: I’ve paid a visit to almost every stop along the grief & mourning thoroughfare.

What are your best traits as a therapist?

From what I’ve gathered by way of clients, friends, and others, my best traits as a therapist are (in no particular order)…one, empathy. I’m blessed to have inherited my (registered nurse) mom’s ability to walk in another’s shoes. Two, intuition; I can just sense things in others—how they hurt, what they need, where they’re coming from. Three, my grasp of the techniques I use to help others heal. And four, I have been labeled, on several occasions, as “one of the world’s great listeners.” 🙂

Bonus: Do you have an actual office?

Nope, not any longer. Just a laptop, a phone, my skills, and the will to help you heal.